The QBIPOC community embodies resilience, courage, and authenticity. They know what it’s like to have to advocate for the future they want because they have had to fight for rights that others take for granted: the right to marry, to live openly without fear, to be recognized in life and law. With the help of Fern Connections CEO, Daphney Poyser, this time around Poyser is leading the charge towards battling for something else meaningfully heartening: the chance for love, for all.
Before becoming a Certified Matchmaker and Date & Relationship Coach, Daphney spent over 25 years working in Information Technology (IT) Project Management. She has worked with Fortune 500 Companies, namely, J P Morgan Chase, American Airlines, and more. In addition to being an IT Project Manager, Poyser spent years spearheading philanthropic initiatives for various marginalized communities within the tech space such as Women and African-Americans. Alongside these initiatives, she led leadership teams focused on youth mentorship for children who had aspirations to work in STEM but weren’t afforded the same opportunities to do so as their other peers.
After leaving Corporate America she decided to take a leap of faith and merge her love for helping others with her commitment to breaking down barriers for marginalized communities, and founded Fern Connections. Inspired and influenced by her background, she made it her mission to find a way to boldly assist in helping individuals and organizations learn how to embrace the power of connection.
Emphasizing the importance of building meaningful, lasting connections, encouraging radical authenticity, and demonstrating that by learning to love and accept both ourselves and others, new possibilities emerge, including opportunities once thought unimaginable.
Mission-led Venture
Fern Connections was founded in 2020 following a deeply personal experience within the matchmaking industry that left its founder feeling dismissed and discriminated against on the basis of her age, ethnicity, and body type rather than being evaluated through her character and intrinsic value overall. Determined to change that narrative, the company was built with a clear mission: to serve the LGBTQIA+ and Ally community by helping individuals embrace their worth, find love, and recognize themselves as the deserving, lovable, and dateable individuals they truly are, no matter how society may attempt to diminish them based on their gender, sexuality, age, or other biases.
Over time, Fern Connections has expanded its services to meet the evolving needs of its community. Today, it supports singles and couples across North America with matchmaking, date coaching, and relationship coaching. Beyond personal relationships, the company has extended its impact into business matchmaking, coaching, and event planning, empowering LGBTQIA+ and Ally-owned organizations and nonprofits to foster meaningful, authentic connections within their teams and with like-minded partners nationwide.
At its core, Fern Connections stands as a testament to resilience, inclusivity, and the belief that love and belonging should never be limited by societal prejudice.
Uniting Souls
For many people, finding someone who is mutually interested in going out on a date can be a challenge. The added challenges come in regards to the date itself. Everyone wants to leave a good impression on the person they’re on a date with, but knowing how to do so, what to say, and what not to say can feel overwhelming. This is where services like Fern Connections come in.
They are the support system helping their clients learn how to build meaningful connections and leave positive, lasting impressions. They are the bridge between helping you get from where you are to where you want to be in your dating journey. Beyond serving as representatives behind the scenes and acting as intermediaries between clients and their potential matches, Fern Connections goes a step further by arranging every first date, virtual or in person. This thoughtful support even extends to second dates, where the team’s guidance is encouraged but never imposed, allowing clients the freedom to choose how they wish to move forward.
At its heart, Fern Connections is dedicated to giving clients the best possible experience when meeting someone new. While the team does not believe in guiding every step of a relationship, what truly sets their matchmaking apart is the unwavering support clients receive. Each individual has someone in their corner cheering them on, preparing them with care, and ensuring that their first steps into new connections feel exciting, affirming, and filled with possibility.
Care is the Best Gift
Fern Connections has always devoted significant time and care to truly understanding the community it serves, recognizing the unique needs and experiences that shape their approach to matchmaking and coaching. The vision is not only to help clients find love but also to ensure they leave the process as stronger, more self-assured individuals than when they first arrived. While the hope is always that clients may find lasting partnerships through the matches made, the deeper goal is to equip them with the tools and confidence to build meaningful relationships wherever life may take them.
This philosophy is reflected in the company’s holistic approach. Matchmaking is never reduced to simply arranging a few dates and moving on. Instead, clients are invited into a year-long journey that blends introductions with ongoing coaching, monthly check-ins, and even practical exercises designed to strengthen new skills. Through this process, clients are supported not just in meeting potential partners but in preparing themselves for the kind of long-term, fulfilling relationships they aspire to have.
At its core, Fern Connections believes this combination of guidance, growth, and genuine care is one of the greatest gifts it can offer, helping clients feel seen, supported, and truly ready to embrace love when it comes their way.
Worthiness Redefined
From its very inception, the company envisioned working with individuals across the United States. An essential part of that mission was implementing a strong, accessible, and virtual-forward business model. With roots in the technology industry and years of experience in digital workspaces, the founder believed that if people could collaborate productively in virtual rooms, the same potential existed for singles exploring meaningful connections online.
Launching during the COVID-19 pandemic provided an immediate opportunity to put this idea into practice. Virtual dating quickly proved its value, and even today, nearly 80% of clients begin their journeys with online first dates. Beyond convenience, this approach has become a powerful way to promote safety and inclusivity, especially for individuals who are differently-abled or those who feel more comfortable building trust virtually before meeting in person.
For the team, success has never been measured solely by numbers or speed. Instead, it is defined by the heartfelt stories clients share of finding love, gaining confidence, and realizing they are worthy of meaningful relationships. This is why every service, from coaching to matchmaking, is designed with a minimum time frame: to allow people the space to grow, to prepare, and to embrace love fully.
At its core, the company’s mission is not just to arrange matches but to help individuals feel confident, prepared, and deserving of love, ensuring they are equipped to build healthy, lasting connections when the right person comes along.
Strategic Support
The team at Fern Connections often describes their work as a daily fight for love, a commitment to creating opportunities for people to find meaningful connections, no matter who they are, what they look like, or where they come from. For them, inclusivity is not just a value but a guiding principle. While not universally embraced, they believe it is far easier and far more powerful to be inclusive rather than exclusive. From a business standpoint, this approach has allowed them to engage with underrepresented communities that many organizations overlook, enabling the company to scale in meaningful and distinctive ways.
As their marketing manager often says, “We work with everybody, but not just anybody.” That phrase captures the essence of their mission. While the company opens its doors widely, it also maintains clear standards rooted in their core values: inclusivity, safety, and kindness. To truly provide a safe and supportive environment, especially in something as personal as matchmaking and coaching, they recognize that it is sometimes necessary to turn away individuals who do not align with those commitments.
This balance, welcoming diversity while safeguarding the well-being of their clients, has not only strengthened their company culture but also made it possible for people to feel genuinely safe and vulnerable as they entrust Fern Connections with their search for love. Their unwavering dedication to practicing inclusivity each day has been the cornerstone of their growth, shaping the business into what it is today.
The Nurturing Spirit
Daphney’s philosophy on how others should be treated, both personally and professionally, is deeply rooted in her own values. She believes in leading with kindness, consideration, honesty, and genuine understanding. As an Ally, she is passionate about uplifting people in every sphere of her life, whether it’s supporting clients, empowering her team, or standing beside her community. For her, respect and empathy are not just guiding principles, but everyday practices that shape the way she shows up for others.
The Future Outlook
What Daphney envisions for the future of the matchmaking industry is a space where companies are courageous enough to ask people about their sexuality, to truly listen, and to learn from what is shared. More importantly, she hopes to see individuals from marginalized communities afforded the same respect and validation as clients who are straight, white, and cisgender.
To her, building a meaningful relationship goes far beyond physical attraction. It is about creating a foundation strong enough to sustain a shared life, one built on kindness, shared values, mutual goals, and the ability to weather every season of emotion together. Looks alone will never be enough to carry love forward.
The organization’s commitment lies in championing a spectrum of acceptance and inclusivity because that is what true love requires. If people take away anything from their work, they want it to be this: your appearance, age, gender, or sexuality are not the most important things about you, and they should never be the most important things to your partner either. What matters is connection, respect, and the courage to build a life worth living together. In this, they strive to lead by example, showing the world that inclusivity and authenticity are the cornerstones of lasting love.
Aspiring Change
The change Daphney most hopes to see and one she believes is already taking root is organizations taking real, actionable steps to redefine what it means to embrace diversity and inclusion across the full spectrum of DEI. To her, it is disheartening that some organizations still choose to limit or exclude individuals for reasons unrelated to credibility or qualification. As she sees it, such practices not only harm individuals but also hold entire industries back.
She believes firmly that the future is diverse and inclusive. For leaders and entrepreneurs, this means adapting to what lies ahead rather than clinging to outdated models of the past. Comfort in old ways may feel safe, but it does not leave room for progress. True innovation cannot flourish in spaces where voices are silenced or perspectives are ignored.
In her view, the responsibility of future-focused leaders is clear: to open the door to reimagination, to cultivate environments where inclusion fuels growth, and to recognize that sustainable success will only be achieved when every voice is given space to shape what comes next.
The Flagbearers
As proud Allies of the LGBTQIA+ community, their commitment to advocacy extends far beyond the framework of their business and into their daily lives. For Fern Connections, building and sustaining healthy partnerships is not only vital to their company’s success but also reflective of a deeper truth: no business thrives in isolation. The trust the LGBTQIA+ community has placed in them over the years has been the foundation on which their work continues to grow.
One of the ways they honor that trust is through their partnership with Dallas Hope Charities, a DFW-based nonprofit dedicated to providing food, shelter, and life-assisting services for LGBTQIA+ youth across the metroplex. This collaboration is more than philanthropic; it is a visible demonstration of their belief that inclusivity must be lived, not just promised. By organizing events, connecting donation partners, and supporting outreach efforts, they work to help ensure young people in need have access to housing and critical resources.
Their philosophy has always been to inspire through action. Supporting Dallas Hope Charities allows them to live out that belief in a way that impacts lives today while helping to build a stronger, more inclusive future. For them, showing up for the present moment, doing what they can, for as long as they can, is not just a responsibility, but a privilege.
Unconditional Support
Daphney aspires that in the next five years, more people will know about Fern Connections and take inspiration from what the firm does, who they are, and the passion they have for their job. She wants to instill the belief that love is for everyone and that no matter how tough it may seem to find love, organizations like theirs are always there to support. She also wants people to understand that there will always be people out there who are looking for love, and if they’re willing to look for it, it will find them too.
Favorite Quote
Daphney shared that one of her favorite quotes is, “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.” She highlights that one of the most fundamental things in business is to ensure that people know that one wants their business, and she believes that if an individual truly wants something, they must ask for it.
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